I often tell clients, “Assholes exist.” The hardest part of being aware, awake, or responsible for your life is accepting that fact. That person in your life was being a bitch or an asshole, but have YOU ever been one?
There are positive and negative people in the world. It’s not right or wrong; it’s just what is. People have the possibility of being positive or negative at any moment, and they are drawn to those who are on the same emotional level. When we experience negative emotions, we pay greater attention to the things in the world that match who we are being. For example, a baseball bat in the hand of a positive person may be a tool for fun and play. Yet that same baseball bat in the hand of a negative person, may be a weapon. When we are talking with people, the same concept applies. If I am positive when speaking with someone, I might gain a friend, a partner, a collaborator. If I am negative, then the person I’m speaking with may become an adversary, an enemy, an opponent.
So, what’s the point of understanding that assholes exist? The point is to learn how to avoid them. And to avoid assholes, we must first face ourselves. Reacting to someone from the standpoint that they should or shouldn’t be a certain way, causes us to confront or take on that person’s energy. Ultimately, we not only take on their energy, but we become even bigger assholes and a distraction to others. By avoiding assholes, we avoid their shit and let them stink alone.
Accepting that assholes exists is like accepting that traffic exists, and sometimes you need a navigation app in traffic. I teach my clients how to go around, over, or under assholes and the negativity they expel. It’s shit navigation. Avoiding getting stuck in negativity gets easier as assholes disappear from our focus and/or from our being.